I want to openly and freely share this list of trauma resources I’ve found that are either sex positive, body focused / somatic approaches, or have a harm reduction approach.
I’m by no means a trauma expert or professional, but in the process of becoming more aware of the effects of trauma, researching the nervous system, and training in trauma-informed facilitation I’ve found these resources to be helpful for my understanding and supportive for my clients as they develop a relationship with their bodies, pleasure, and exploration.
EXPLORING CONSENSUAL NON-MONOGAMY
People often ask me about resources about consensual non-monogamy. Even though I focus on communication of pleasure (with needs, wants, desires, and fantasies), I’m not a therapist and don’t plan on being one! But I have been in my fair share of open relationships, so I suggest these resources not from my perspective as a Pleasure Educator, but from being human and exploring new ways of relating.
ANTICIPATION IS HALF OF SEDUCTION
I had the honour of writing a commissioned essay for Jonathan Homsey’s latest curated exhibition, which launched last week at Blindside Gallery. Jonathan is a master of so many mediums, but his curation is stunning and thoughtful, and he's so damn kind.
He attended one of my workshops for Small Beyond last year where I supposedly said "anticipation is half of seduction". I don't remember saying it, but he did! So he created a whole exhibition around this exploration. I wrote this piece about what I feel pleasure is, and the process of cultivating and honouring it.
GUSHING AND SQUIRTING RESEARCH
After many gushing and squirting workshops I’ve decided to write a blog about the research and misconceptions around squirting as I get so many questions.
Like many other things to do with sexual pleasure, there’s a lot of misconceptions around squirting and gushing and of course there’s sooooo much more study to be done - seriously, where are the sex positive millionaires at? Please send them my way.